It’s Okay to Not Be Okay

How are you doing? No, I mean really, how are YOU doing?

Me, it’s been hit and miss. This last week I downloaded a new app called the Motivation- Daily Quotes app. I have been enjoying this new app because several times throughout the day the app sends me a new motivational quote. Since I wear a smart watch, these little tidbits of motivation pop up on my watch at what just the right time. When I’m second guessing myself, all of the sudden “Your only limit is you” lights up on my wrist. Coincidence? No. I’d say divine intervention.

If I find that one is especially touching, I share the quote either on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, or text it to a friend. Who doesn’t need a little extra motivation especially at a time like this?

We are in unprecedented times. There is no book on how to survive the Coronavirus. There is no quick fix. It’s okay to not be okay.

Let me tell you however what’s not okay. It’s not okay to not reach out to someone when you need help. Call a friend, call a neighbor, or call this number 1(800)273-8255. Let someone know that you need help. Just this week, I received a phone call from my neighbor who had fallen down in her garage and thought she had broken her hip. Fortunately, after a trip to the ER, she was told that her hip was not broken. Having a friendship with your neighbors is important.

We are in unprecedented times. There is no book on how to survive the Coronavirus. There is no quick fix. It’s okay to not be okay.

I am a fifth grade teacher and this last week was our spring break. Instead of binge watching Netflix all day every day, I instead chose to read three books, do virtual facials with some of my family, friend, and coworkers, and stay in touch with other friends via Zoom, Marco Polo, and Houseparty. I am a social person. I find my energy when I’m around others. Don’t get me wrong, I also value my alone time, but I really enjoy times times in which I can get together with my girlfriends chat, laugh, and drink some wine.

Speaking of wine, Monday night I was set to make my way over to girlfriend’s house, but never made it there. Monday nights are usually Bachelor night where a group of us get together to watch the bachelor, gossip and drink wine. Yes, we still get together on Monday nights even when the Bachelor is not on TV. As I was getting ready to walk out the door on Monday night, my husband said, “Where are you going?”

I of course responded, “It’s Monday night. I’m going to my friend’s house.”

Just by the look on his face, I could tell that he didn’t want me to go and I knew in my heart of hearts I shouldn’t go. I, however, still wanted to go because I needed that social time. I wanted to celebrate being on spring break, ignore that the Coronavirus’ existence, and enjoy an evening socializing.

In the end, I didn’t go. I was disappointed, but I had a choice to make. Was I going to be upset and wallow in my misery for the rest of the night, or was I going to ask my friend if we could do a virtual happy hour instead! I am happy to say that I chose not to wallow in my misery, I listened to my husband, I stayed home, and I enjoyed a virtual happy hour with my girlfriends.

Today is Easter. This is a holiday in which many people celebrate it by getting together with their family. This year, however, we are not supposed to do that. This year, we are all sheltering in place, and social distancing ourselves. It’s hard. I miss my family and I miss my friends.

Instead of wallowing in the misery of being away from family and friends, however, I am instead going to rejoice in the fact that I, my family and friends are healthy. I’m going to stop and praying for the families who have lost a loved one to this horrible disease and those who are currently ill and fighting for their life.

We have a choice during this time of the coronavirus pandemic. Are we going to be pessimistic or optimistic? Are we going to find the light in the midst of darkness? Are we going to find the beauty amongst the ashes?

Remember, it’s okay to not be okay. If you’re not okay, however, try downloading the motivation app, reach out to someone, pray, read a book, etc. We are in this together.

Until next time,

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